Transgendered

Today I read an article where a Transgendered male we prohibited from using the women's restroom at a local grocery store.  Now I don't know if I really believe in the whole Transgendered thing, but to each his own. I'm a male that likes other men, and I'm glad of it, I can't imagine wanting to be a woman....Although, I can see a woman wanting to be a man....LOL. JK, JK,

The problem arose, where he/she dressed as a woman, and then at the grocery store used the women's restroom. I imagine this probably was not a one time thing, and from the article it appears that it was not. He/she proceeded to go to the stall and then urinated while standing, causing a woman in one of the other stalls some level of consternation, which she reported to the appropriate authorities, IE: store manager, who then reported it to the police, and the Transgendered person was eventually charged with trespassing, and banned from the store for a year because of this.

Now to my point of view.  I have used restrooms, (men's) where the women's was full and a woman came in and used the stall while I was standing at the urinal, no harm no foul in my opinion, it didn't bother me in the least and it didn't seem to bother any of the other men, and there were no rude comments made by anyone that I remember.  Granted this was a little different situation, in that there were allot of people around albeit a men's restroom I doubt neither the woman, or any of the men, had much concern of being raped or molested, but on the other hand, it was the men's restroom.  I myself by accident walked into a woman's restroom by accident, and had to use the stall, not realizing it was a woman's restroom, until a woman came in and sat down in the stall next to me.....man was I embarrassed, and hoped I could get my pants back up and out of there without anyone seeing me. But back to my point. a man that says he identifies as a woman or vise versa, who dresses as the opposite sex, acts like the opposite sex, takes the name of the opposite sex, sounds like the opposite sex, who still has the original equipment of his or her sex, is still the sex they were born as, plain and simple.  They're just a wolf in sheep's clothing for lack of a better description, and they should be treated as such.  Now if this "man" felt vulnerable dressed as a woman, using a men's restroom because he/she was concerned of being raped, I can't imagine the shock the potential rapist would experience when he discovered his potential rape victim was a man.

One of the headlines that I've heard in the last couple of years, is "PREGNANT MAN GIVES BIRTH", then you find out the man is really a woman, who has become a man, but chose to have her female organs kept intact. That is not a pregnant man, that is a pregnant woman that looks like a man, totally different headline  "WOMAN THAT LOOKS LIKE A MAN PREGNANT"

The simple solution to the whole thing in my opinion would have been for the "man" to fully embrace being a woman, and instead of standing while he urinated, choose to sit down or squat as any self respecting woman would do, but no, he had to pee like a man. So in my opinion the authorities acted appropriately.  These Transgender people who only take it part way, in my opinion want their cake and to eat it as well. If they want to be recognized, as male, then do it. Have the surgery to remove their  original equipment, and have new equipment fashioned to match there believed sex, take the appropriate hormones to raise or lower their voice, change their name. Do it all. but until its all done, your still the sex you were born, plain and simple.

Just my two cents.

Mati Tao. Come out Come out wherever you are

Come on Mati, tell it like it is.  This whole sorry sounded fishy to me from the start. A college educated guy, good looking, masculine, athletic, sweet, is taken for a "ride around the block" by someone who was his girl friend, who suddenly dies, he said he met; then recants, his parents said he met, she stood him up; he got scared to met her, talked to for hours on the phone every night, falling asleep on the phone with (sleeping with) pictures of whom are not her, and now a man claiming to have hoaxed Mati, playing to be a woman, but he cant make his voice sound right on camera? Come on give me a break.

Not that I really care what Mati's Sexuality is, but to me the biggest story here is a football player, who I feel is most likely gay is having to lie to himself, and the entire nation about something that really doesn't matter just because of our puritanical vision of sexuality. The media is riding this for all its worth, and its not going to stop until something bad happens.  Most likely when they do expose the truth that Mati is gay, and the man doing the "hoaxing" is his lover, and because of sociatial pressures, he does something that everyone will regret.

Here is what I think went down.  Mati is either gay or bi.  He is a good Christian/Mormon kid. Good family, good upbringing, college football hero, who has allot going for him, and most likely will be a pro star someday. Mati, wanting to fit in with the other guys in the locker room, possibly even taking some kidding/teasing from teammates about not having a girlfriend, makes one up. Not necessarily intentionally at the start, but just says he has one, maybe even talking about a boyfriend as a girlfriend. Eventually the friends/teammates start to wonder who she is, since they never see him with anyone, so he asks a close female friend to call and leave him some messages, he also finds some pictures of a girl that is pretty, and lives a reasonable distance away, so no one will be able to meet her. All of the late night, and all night phone conversations with her are with his actual boyfriend, and the thing goes well for sometime, but finally it becomes too much of a hassle for the two of them to keep up the charade, so what better way than to "kill" her off...(kind of sounds like a soap opera), when a star becomes too much of a problem they "kill off" the character, no fuss no muss, end of story.

The problem began when Dead Spin dug a little deeper, bringing this story to the front page, and uncovering the discrepancies in it. The little lie, just as most lies do, grew and he had to tell another lie to cover the first, and another, and then another. I don't think it would be too hard to record voice messages after the fact and changing the date to an earlier time. I think all that would have to be done would be to change the date on the phone, so that it didn't set from the network automatically, and then set your own time, maybe on both phones, and then call and record the message, hang up and then do it all over again to record different times and dates.

I don't know if this is the actual story, but we will see. I think we haven't heard the end of this, and I don't think we will for sometime.  If this is the story, or something like it, I feel sad for Mati, in that he is having to hide behind a lie, all for being who he is, and what America expects from its football players, and most athletes in general. We may not hear the end of this for sometime, maybe years, not until it is acceptable to be gay and be an athlete.

Gun Control

I read a tweet today, that really got my blood boiling. #Taft it was said "How dare they say that more guns = less violence?" my response to that is as follows:
 Well I think its been proven that less guns = more violence. how many guns were in Sandy Hook? Taft HS? or any other school shooting, other than what the "criminal" had? Do I hear ZERO? That’s right ZERO. Had there been even one person trained on how to use a gun, and carrying a gun in any of the shootings, there may have been a different story. Look at our schools as a small microcosm of a disarmed America, the population disarmed, and they get shot like sitting ducks when someone comes in who doesn't follow the rules. They just end up being sheep waiting to be slaughtered.

The problem lies not with guns, but with the people using them. I had a gun when I was 9 years old, I never took it to school and shot anybody. In High School I even took an old shotgun, flintlock pistol, and flintlock rifle to school one day for a presentation. I stored them in my locker, until class and them carried them down the hall to the class room, did my presentation, then took them out to my car after class. Did they kill anyone? Nope. I Imagine about half the boys in my school had a gun in their car or truck on school property during the day, either going hunting before or after school, and most of us....allot of girls included, carried pocket knives from first grade all the way through High School.

The problem lies not with guns, but our culture. We live in a society were everyone takes the position, it's not my fault, or the government will take care of me. We no longer have any personal responsibility.  You spank your child, the child says something to somebody, and then CPS is knocking on your door, and taking your child away, and then its up to you to prove you did nothing wrong.  Or the schools try to discipline a kid and the parent is knocking down the door yelling at the "offender" for disciplining their brat. and then, you have video games that promote war and the killing of Innocent people.

When I was in school, we had corporal punishment available to our teachers, and I got spanked a couple of times, but for the most part I kept it pretty straight because of the threat of getting a "Hack".  The couple of times I did get a hack, did I tell my parents? Hell no. Because I knew I would get paddled twice as hard as the teacher did.

Now I'm not saying video games kill people, just as I don't believe that guns kill people.  Both require the help of a human.  But if you take a twisted person and let them play killing video games in their spare time, and they get ahold of a gun, there is a greater chance something bad is going to happen.

In my opinion, what needs to happen is parents need to start being parents again.  Kids don't sit in their rooms for hours on end playing video games/watching TV. They need to get outside, do something, get a job, do chores around the house, get some exercise.  When they get out of line, they need to be spanked, either by the parent, passerby, teacher, whoever needs to do it. Kids are too coddled today.  When they graduate they are either enrolled in college, or they go into government service/military for for 4 years where they get some discipline, and maturity. When the ones that went to college get out they do 2 years service.

Also there needs to be more mental health services available, and we need to realize as a nation, that unfortunately not everyone is capable of being in the public sector.  Get rid of the main stream guidelines, put kids where they get the help they need. If it's a mental institution, then that's where they need to be not in our schools. If their I/Q is low maybe they need to be in a special school where they specialize in those issues.

In closing, we need to do something, but gun control is not the issue. This is a societal issue and until something is done in our society to correct that, it will just continue to happen, with more and more regularity.