Monday, December 17, 2012

Newtown Massacre

Well here it is another school shooting.  Another sick individual. My heart goes out to the families of the victims of this tragedy.  If things play out the way they usually do when there is any kind of shooting where children are involved, we're all about to become victims. 

I watched an interview this morning on TV, the person being interviewed was the school nurse in Newtown Conn..  She spoke about how she had hidden under her desk when the gunman came into her office, and how she could see him through a hole in the back of her desk for computer cables to go through, and how after he had left (to continue his rampage) her secretary had come into the office, and closed the door and they both hid in the closet for almost 4 hours. Congratulations to both of them for surviving, and having an action plan, but how much more gratifying would it to have been to hear this. "I was in my office and heard some popping noises, I reached into my desk, and pulled my hand gun out of my purse, after checking to make sure it was loaded, I proceeded into my secretary's office where I found her hiding under her desk. I told her to go into my office, lock the door, and then go into my store room lock the door, and hide there until everything was OK.  Next I went out into the hall where I came almost face to face with the shooter, on his way into my office, I raised my gun, and shot him. I'm very sorry for the 1 victim of the shooter, and I heart and prayers go to the family, but I'm thankful I chose to have a conceal carry permit, and know how to effectively use my weapon." I know myself for one would much rather hear this, hour after hour, day after day, month after month, year after year, than talk about more gun control legislation.

 I read an article a few years ago, I think shortly after 9/11 that was relevant then, and even more so here. Its called "On Sheep, Wolves and Sheepdogs. In it, it makes the correlation between people who are Sheep, Wolves, and Sheepdogs, and how each reacts.  How great would it have been had this nurse been able to have been a "Sheepdog". Read on for the narrative, I didn't write it, but it sums up my feelings. Before the September 11 attacks in 2001, I flew almost weekly, and since I was 5 or 6 years old I had carried a pocket knife, (yes to school as well). When I started flying for work I had always had my knife in my pocket, not because I expected problems, but because I used it for work, as well in the back of my mind I had thought if there were ever any problems on board (hi-jacking) I at least had a weapon I could use to defend myself or others. After 9/11 that no longer is an option, now when I fly, I have to remember to "disarm" myself and leave my pocket knife at home.  I, thanks to our government have now become a sheepdog with no teeth. Should something happen on board a plane that I am on, will fight to the death, but it will be with my bare knuckles, fingernails, teeth and whatever else the government cannot take away from me.


      Sheep, Wolf, or Sheepdog?

Many individuals seem to have a rather limited view of gun owners. We are variously depicted as "good ol' boys" -- rebel rednecks who are uneducated and for whom shooting is a cheap, macho thrill, vigilantes who believe something along the lines of "Shoot 'em all -- let God sort 'em out", or patriotic, right-wing extremists who will brook no argument over the precise meaning of each of the twenty-seven words in the second amendment. These stereotypes aren't surprising; they are the inevitable result of years of fomenting fear by gun control advocates, biased reporting by most of the media, and inaccurate portrayals of firearm use by the entertainment industry.
Well, folks, make a new category for me and my sisters. I am an armed mother. I own a variety of firearms. I have five children -- three stepsons and two toddlers -- ranging from just over 1 year old to 14 years old. I am a passionate defender of any responsible individuals right to keep and bear arms, for both ideological and practical reasons. And I am not alone.

I first began shooting simply out of curiosity -- my former father-in-law is an experienced hunter, and he wanted to share his knowledge and enjoyment of firearms with his son and me. I fell in love with his 12-gauge pump shotgun -- and became proficient with it my first afternoon of shooting. With the first recoil into my shoulder, before the booming echoes faded away, recognition of the power I commanded flooded me. It filled me with something I'd not known before: the absolute knowledge that if someone tried to mess with me, I could successfully fight him -- or them -- off. Size was no longer an insurmountable obstacle; numbers were more of a challenge but I would have a much better chance being armed. I could fight--and win!

I have since educated myself about responsible firearms use, handling, and storage, and learned how to shoot different firearms. I have also written numerous articles on RKBA topics and self-defense. While I am by no means an expert, I enjoy reading and learning more about firearms, and enjoy practicing with them. Due to my willingness to write about firearms, I've had some interesting exchanges with individuals from across the spectrum. In part as a result of that, and also from my reading in the area, I have come to view individuals as falling into one of three classes: sheep, wolf, and sheepdog.
Sheep are, unfortunately, the most numerous group. Individuals who are horrified by guns and protest indignantly that they would never own a gun, because they could never hurt another human being are sheep. So are individuals who, for whatever reason, can't or won't be bothered to think about their own protection. Also in this group are those who believe that the government -- the police, 911, etc. -- can and will protect them, and so don't think about protecting themselves.

From the published accounts of in-flight conversations from people on the three jets that became third world cruise missiles on 9-11, slamming into the twin towers of the World Trade Center and the Pentagon, most of the people on those jets -- and the people they contacted -- were sheep. They allowed terrorists armed with knives and box cutters to commandeer the aircraft, killing themselves and thousands more in the buildings. Based on what we currently know of those flights' last few minutes, no one made any attempt to resist the terrorists. One woman who called her husband on a cell phone asked him what they should do; sadly, he did not suggest she recruit some others to overcome the terrorists. Those poor doomed souls had been so conditioned into relying on someone else for their protection that they apparently didn't even try to mount a resistance. They died huddled into the back of the plane, like the sheep they'd become.

Wolves are the least numerous group, thankfully. Individuals who prey on others, for whatever reason, are wolves. Terrorists, rapists, thieves, and psychopathic killers are obviously wolves. So are those who derive satisfaction from the power they wield over others, whether by bullying or manipulating or deceiving. It's difficult to get a good estimate of just how many wolves there are out there, because ways of counting and defining them vary. According to the American Psychiatric Association's measures, what I'm calling wolves can be classified into three categories (it is possible for someone to belong in two or more categories): antisocial personality disorder (most common criminals); sociopaths; and psychopaths. The incidence of each of these in the population is, respectively, 4%, 3%, and 1%.
It is possible for an individual to overreact to the threat that wolves present to the rest of us, and become wolf-like. These individuals typically make statements such as, "If anybody comes after me he'll get the business end of my rifle!" or "If I'd had my gun with me that SOB would have learned a thing or two courtesy of Mr. Wesson!". They abuse the power of firearms, and become bullies -- as long as they're behind their weapon. Fortunately, this kind of "reactionary wolf" is similarly rare.

That leaves the individuals who know better than to rely on the empty promises of security the government offers, and who educate themselves and arm themselves with a variety of tools for self-protection. These individuals aren't sheep, passively waiting and hoping someone else will watch over us. Nor are they wolves, using their tools and training against those who pose no real threat to them. They are sheepdogs -- ever watchful, appraising potential problems and responding appropriately to a threat. If a wolf approaches, they bark first to warn it off. If it persists, they increase the defensive measures. If the wolf begins its attack, only then does the sheepdog unleash its most powerful weapon -- firearms -- to stop the lethal threat to its life and loved ones.
In my work for Project: Safe Skies, I have heard the objection several times that armed citizens on board a plane would overreact -- in effect, becoming those reactionary wolves I described above. Sadly, I've even heard this from individuals who describe themselves as "pro-gun". If the possibilities were limited to sheep and wolves -- prey and predators -- it is possible that someone simply saying hello to his companion while on a jet -- "Hi, Jack!" -- could get shot by a reactionary wolf with a quick trigger finger. The reality is that most gun owners are sheepdogs: prepared, alert, and thinking. Threats are assessed and dealt with an appropriate fashion, rather than drawing the gun and firing away every time.

In fact, armed citizens have a better record of successfully targeting criminals than do police officers. Sheepdogs mistakenly shoot innocent individuals in only 2% of shootings; for police the rate is 11%. If you think about it, this makes sense. Civilians don't have the protections that come with the badge a cop wears. Instead, if they fire (or even show a weapon in many states) inappropriately, the civilian can face criminal and civil suits that can lead to bankruptcy, and the loss of a good reputation in the community. Because of the higher standard of accountability, many sheepdogs also work hard to maintain solid defensive skills -- often times much harder than law enforcement officers do. That training pays off in greater safety.
I have 7 excellent reasons to be armed and prepared to meet any threat that may come my way: my life and the lives of my wonderful partner and five beautiful children. As a mother, it is my responsibility to raise my children to be healthy, responsible adults. This includes protecting them from and educating them about potential dangers in the world. That's why I'm a sheepdog. My responsibility does not end when we set foot on airport property. Indeed, the events of 9-11 (another failure of government safety schemes, but I'll save that topic for another day) have demonstrated that sheepdogs are in even greater demand than ever before.

So, what are you? A sheep, a wolf, or a sheepdog?

Does anyone seriously think that a wolf is going to follow the rules? lets make more gun control laws. Take weapons away from everyone, no more sales of guns or ammunition, guns are still going to be owned by those wishing to do people harm, hell, I even made a gun in my high school metal shop class.  It doesn't take much knowledge to make one. Just a metal lathe, and a micrometer.

Tuesday, December 4, 2012

Frank Ocean Coming Out Letter

I came accross something today that to me was kind of a "WOW" moment. It was written by Frank Ocean, a black rapper.  I'm not really into rap, this guy hits it on the head. It is his comming out letter that he wrote in a open format. It is very much how I felt, and was unable to put to words. Good job Frank

"Whoever you are, where ever you are… I’m starting to think we’re a lot alike. Human beings spinning on blackness. All wanting to be seen, touched, heard, paid attention to. My loved ones are everything to me here. In the last year or 3 I’ve screamed at my creator, screamed at clouds in the sky, for some explanation. Mercy maybe. For peace of mind to rain like Manna somehow. 4 summers ago, I met somebody. I was 19 years old. He was too. We spent that summer, and the summer after, together. Everyday almost. And on the days we were together, time would glide. Most of the day I’d see him, and his smile. I’d hear his conversation and his silence….until it was time to sleep. Sleep I would often share with him. By the time I realized I was in love, it was malignant. It was hopeless. There was no escaping. No negotiating with the feeling. No choice. It was my first love, it changed my life. Back then, my mind would wander to the women I had been with. The ones I cared for and thought I was in love with. I reminisced about the sentimental songs I enjoyed when I was a teenager.. the ones I played when I experienced a girlfriend for the first time. I realized they were written in a language I did not speak. I realized too much, too quickly. Imagine being thrown from a plane. I wasn’t in a plane though. I was in a Nissan Maxima, the same car I packed up with bags and drove to Los Angeles in. I sat there and told my friend how I felt. I wept as the words left my mouth. I grieved for them, knowing I could never take them back for myself. He patted my back. He said kind things. He did his best, but he wouldn’t admit the same. He had to go back inside soon. It was late and his girlfriend was waiting for him upstairs. He wouldn’t tell me for years. Now imagine being thrown from a cliff. No, I wasn’t on a cliff, I was still in my car telling myself It was gonna be fine and to take deep breaths. I took the breaths and carried on. I kept up a peculiar friendship with him because I couldn’t imagine keeping up my life without him. I struggled to master myself and my emotions.

 I wasn’t always successful. That dance went on… I kept the rhythm for several Summers after. It’s Winter now. I’m typing this on a plane back to Los Angeles from New Orleans. I flew home for another marred Christmas. I have a window seat. It’s December 27 2011. By now I’ve written two albums, this being the second. I wrote to keep myself busy and sane. I wanted to create worlds that were rosier than mine. I tried to channel overwhelming emotions. I’m surprised at how far all of it has taken me. Before writing this I’d told some people my story. I’m sure these people kept me alive, kept me safe.. sincerely. These are the folks I wanna thank from the floor of my heart. Everyone of you knows who you are.. great humans. Probably Angels. I don’t know what happens now, and that’s alrite. I don’t have any secrets I need kept anymore. There’s probably some small shit still, but you know what I mean. I was never alone, as much as I felt like it.. As much as I still do sometimes, I never was. I don’t think I ever could be. Thanks, to my first love, I’m grateful for you. Grateful that even though It wasn’t what I hoped for and even though it was never enough, it was. Some things never are.. and we were. I won’t forget you. I won’t forget the Summer. I’ll remember who I was then I met you. I’ll remember who you were and how we’ve both changed and stayed the same. I’ve never had more respect for life and living than I have right now. Maybe it takes a near death experience to feel alive. Thanks, to my Mother. You raised me strong. I know I’m only brave because you were first.. so thank you. All of you. For everything good. I feel like a free man. If I listen closely.. I can hear the sky falling too.
-Frank